well actually

— The well-actually crowd wants as much as everyone else to participate in the conversation. They want to be loved. But instead of rolling with the punches and participating in a brainstorm of ideas and exploding humor, they contribute interruptions, facts and details that merely produce stop energy on an ongoing discussion. They turn the center of attention towards them. The well-actually crowd means well. They want to be loved, they just have not realized that they are undermining their own quest for friends.